This
article was first published in the Daily Telegraph on Saturday May
15th, under the title: "You Need to see a
Psychoanalyst". This is a slightly extended version.
It is reproduced here with the kind permission of the Daily
Telegraph.
There
are many standard cartoon situations: desert island cartoons, man
on a ledge cartoons, middle aged man and nubile girl cartoons,
furious wives waiting - rolling pin in hand - for their husband
cartoons. One of the most common shows two men in a room with
certain essential props. There is always an armchair, a couch,
usually a carpet, and on the wall a framed certificate. These are
jokes about psychoanalysts. A man lying upside down on the couch.
The analyst: "Can't you do ANYTHING right?" An analyst
shown wearing a Napoleon hat and with one arm thrust into the
breast of his jacket asks his patient, "When did you first
begin to feel omnipotent?".
People like jokes about how daft
psychoanalysts are, and many think that they should be placed
somewhere between charlatans and down-right con-men. Yet very few
people who have not had first hand experience of psychoanalysis,
or who have not read about it, have any idea of what a
psychoanalyst does. Indeed, many members of the otherwise
sophisticated public share the opinion that "Anyone who goes
to a psychoanalyst needs his head examined."
And yet in any of the recent
millennium lists of the greatest thinkers of the 20th Century,
Sigmund Freud, the Viennese medical doctor who was the discoverer
and founding father of psychoanalysis, is always among the top
few. And these same, sceptical, no-nonsense citizens entirely
accept and are often guided by ideas and attitudes that come
directly from Freud, or from later psychoanalytic writing. For
instance, everyone knows what a Freudian slip is, i.e. the sudden
"accidental" betrayal of a person's true thoughts,
unthinkingly blurted out from his or her unconscious. Indeed, the
very idea of an unconscious from which such personal truths might
spring is a psychoanalytic concept. As are "ambivalence"
(as in "I have ambivalent feelings about him"),
"sibling rivalry", "neurosis", and
"Oedipus complex". At the end of the twentieth century,
we all speak Freud.
No one disputes the fact that a
person's behaviour could be open to different interpretations,
some of which might amaze and disconcert him. We all interpret
other people's behaviour: as we struggle to get on comfortably
with our families and colleagues and friends we all make
(psychoanalytically derived) shots at interpreting their and our
own actions and attitudes. "She was behaving peculiarly
because she was nervous"; or "He's too competitive to
delegate any responsibility to anyone else".
What Freud did was to assume that
human behaviour was ultimately understandable, that it followed
rational laws, but that those laws could only be seen to be
rational if we understand the principles that guide them.
Crucially, he added to rational explanations for human behaviour,
the element of the unconscious; he said, that is, that some of the
most important things which influence our behaviour and our
character are feelings and experiences of which we are not aware.
Freud was certainly not the first
to recognize the unconscious in human mental life, but he was the
first to study it in such depth and to explore and elaborate a way
of making it accessible to conscious thought. One hundred years
ago, in 1899, Freud's Interpretation of Dreams, his first and
perhaps most revolutionary work, shone a light on the unconscious
by showing how it manifests itself in anxieties, physical symptoms
or dreams. This no longer feels like such a revolutionary idea; we
are all aware of a reservoir of experiences and memories felt to
be located somewhere deep within our minds, which we glimpse when
we remember our dreams. We are struck by the feeling that in the
middle of the night we were a child again, in our parents house,
having a temper tantrum; or an actor on a stage, waiting for the
curtain to go up and realising that we have forgotten to learn our
lines. At moments like these, we become aware that there is a
whole world within us, a world full of powerful emotions and
complicated relationships, a world to which we have very limited
access.
In the years following the
publication of The Interpretation of Dreams, psychoanalysts have
been engaged in a broad study of those aspects of the human
condition that do not fall directly into the physiological. They
study the human mind - how it works and how it falls ill - and
they simultaneously treat individuals by applying the knowledge
and experience they have gained about the way people feel and
think and behave.
The only mystery is why this is
ever considered such a crackpot thing to do. Who, after all, has
not come across someone who is failing to prosper, and seems
doomed to repeat endlessly some self-destructive pattern in life,
but who maintains nevertheless that there is nothing wrong with
him? It is into this territory that the psychoanalyst steps. He
comes from a theoretical and professional tradition that attempts
to understand in a general way what makes people tick, and he
scrutinises and analyses his relationship with a particular
patient in minute detail, often over a long period time.
Psychoanalysis is not like physical
medicine. It is not pure science, as Freud , in the beginning of
his studies, hoped it would be. Psychoanalysts use a combination
of scientifically confirmable data, philosophical observations
about human nature and very real and painstakingly acquired
therapeutic skills to understand their patients. They are not
primarily interested in changing specific behaviours and not at
all interested in molding their patients to some pre-conceived
idea of "normal". Rather, practising psychoanalysis can
be likened, as the British psychoanalyst Paul Williams put it, to
restoring a painting. "Patient and analyst attempt together
to lift the grime and wear of the years without damaging the
original underneath. Where damage appears, repair is carefully
undertaken in accordance with, as far as is possible, the
intentions of the creator - the Self of the patient. The process
is a science and an art". Such a process is about
discovering, experiencing and assimilating what is authentic and
emotionally true in the patient's self.
Long before Freud, authors and
poets addressed this side of life. Paulina, in A Winter's Tale,
suggests that Leontes' son has died because the child has tried to
contain the agony of his parents quarrel, and the attempt had
overwhelmed him. In Macbeth, Macduff's comrades implore him to
express his grief when he hears of the deaths of his wife and
children, "Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak,
Whispers the o'er fraught heart and bids it break" . Like
Shakespeare, Freud understood how children and adults may get ill
from carrying pains they cannot speak about and cannot make sense
of. It was from this understanding, and his painstaking attempts
to study such states and to find ways to relieve them, that, in
the face of general scepticism from the medical establishment,
psychoanalysis, "the talking cure", was developed.
There is nothing prurient about
this and nothing destructive. It is not messing with people's
minds; it is about easing suffering and clarifying mental
confusion. Contrary to another popular myth, it is not "all
about sex", although sexuality - fantasies, difficulties,
experiences - are often part of a much more far reaching
exploration of the patient's whole emotional life.
It is also the case that
psychoanalysis is constantly developing. Some of Freud's own ideas
have been set aside and new formulations have been found. Not just
time, but geography and culture create changes. Psychoanalysis in
Great Britain is not exactly the same, though it is closely
related to, that practised in France, the U.S. A. and so on.
Sometimes people are nervous about
going to see a psychoanalyst because they feel they will betray
aspects of themselves that feel deeply private. They think that
analysts, like witch doctors perhaps, will look into their souls,
or make impertinent trespassing sorties into their private
thoughts or desires. And yes, it is sometimes frightening to get
to know yourself, to confront your demons. But the analytic
relationship allows this to take place in an atmosphere of
developing trust, an atmosphere in which difficult, painful
experiences can be safely explored and understood. It is in such
situations of closeness and dependency that people have a chance
to grow. For many people the home of their childhood provides such
a setting, but for many others (and for many different reasons) it
does not, or not sufficiently. It is then that people need further
help in order for their lives to become more rewarding.
One familiar argument against going
to talk to a psychoanalyst is that it would be "self
indulgent". "How could I spend so much time talking
about myself?" But in fact it could be argued that nothing is
more self indulgent than allowing one's uncontrollable patterns of
behaviour to make life difficult for one's family and friends. The
perennially dissatisfied wife, the workaholic husband, the
boyfriend who is an incipient alcoholic, all place intolerable
pressures and burdens on people who care about them. In such
circumstances, to take responsibility for one's own life, for
one's own problems, however difficult and even painful it might
be, is a grown-up, unselfish thing to do.
Priscilla
Roth. May 1999
Copyright © 1999 Priscilla Roth

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